A Memoir

Book - 2013 | 1st ed.
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Christa Parravani and her identical twin, Cara, shared a bond that went beyond siblinghood, beyond sisterhood, beyond friendship. Raised up from poverty by a determined single mother, the gifted and beautiful twins sheltered each other from family violence and loss by inventing a haven of playfulness and creativity between themselves. They went on to earn scholarships at a prestigious college, to careers as artists (a photographer and a writer), and to exuberant young marriages. But when Cara fell victim to a rape, she veered into depression, drugs, and a shocking early death. Studies have shown that when an identical twin dies, regardless of the cause, the surviving twin's life is at risk. First, Christa fought to stop her sister's downward spiral; then, she was struggling to keep herself alive. The act of creating this heart-wrenching text helped to transform her into a twin able to live on her own.--From publisher description.
Publisher: New York : Henry Holt, 2013.
Edition: 1st ed.
ISBN: 9780805096538
Characteristics: 308 pages ; 22 cm


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Feb 26, 2021

A memoir about the connection and bond between two identical twin sisters, Christa and Cara Parravani, who have always been by each other's side since birth, that is until Cara’s battle with drugs left Christa alone. Parravani tells their heart-wrenching story of their bond being torn apart through trauma, which anyone who has a sibling they are close to, such as myself, can relate to. Parravani recounts Cara’s life, including details about their childhood and adult life, divulging into how she moved on from losing her sister. Some of the events are not in chronological order, which makes the book a little hard to follow in some cases, however, the book is split into three parts that focuses on each of the above topics. I recommend this book for young adults and adults as there are some graphic details about rape and drugs.

HCL_staff_reviews May 29, 2019

Haunted by her deceased twin sister's image everytime she looks in the mirror, Cara wonders how she can possibly go on. Research shows that when an identical twin dies the other is often quick to follow, and as her life spirals out of control Christa can't help but wonder if she'll be another statistic. Parravani writes with honesty, a memoir at once tragic and beautiful. — Brianna B., Wayzata Library

Nov 25, 2017

I'm getting a little concerned about this whole Ren thing.
Also, I kinda miss the other characters.

rally25 Nov 01, 2015

I loved this being mum to a set of identical twins I could relate to their bond - a sad book, I cried like a baby BUT loved it

Jun 30, 2015

I’m not fond of depressing memoirs, but I will make an exception to this story of identical twins. One never recovers from a brutal rape and finds solace in drugs and eventually dies. The struggle the remaining twin has is so saddening. For those of us who lack someone as close as a twin, this story is a fascinating look with no rose-colored glasses used for the telling of the story.

1955Mookie Sep 29, 2013

Loved this book. Very heartfelt. Never lost a twin but have lost a good friend to suicide. The feelings when she comes to me is the same as Chrsta felt about Cara. Couldn't put this book down and finished it over two days.

Sep 02, 2013

No. Really nein, nix, nunca - no thank you. Got up to page 40 thought i might have to hang myself in my closet. A story about the suicide of a twin and the potentially insurmountable grief of the living twin. Poignant and well written, even poetic in parts. Very real life, a vulnerable sharing for this author. I honor that. AND i flipped through to the middle, the near end and the end. The storyline and all the language was the same, the story the same same same same...i put it down. did not finish. did not want to. yeah...NO.

May 01, 2013

It won't let me give a star rating, so I'll do it here: 4 stars. Not an easy read because of the anguish Christa went through dealing with the grief of her twin sister dying. She really struggled to become an individual.


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