The Four Tendencies

The Four Tendencies

The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)

Book - 2017 | First edition.
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"In this groundbreaking analysis of personality type, bestselling author of Better Than Before and The Happiness Project Gretchen Rubin reveals the one simple question that will transform what you do at home, at work, and in life. During her multibook investigation into understand human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question "How do I respond to expectations?" we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively. More than 600,000 people have taken her online quiz, and managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use the framework to help people make significant, lasting change. The Four Tendencies hold practical answers if you've ever thought... · People can rely on me, but I can't rely on myself. · How can I help someone to follow good advice? · People say I ask too many questions. · How do I work with someone who refuses to do what I ask--or who keeps telling me what to do? With sharp insight, compelling research, and hilarious examples, The Four Tendencies will help you get happier, healthier, more productive, and more creative. It's far easier to succeed when you know what works for you"-- Provided by publisher.
"Bestselling author Gretchen Rubin (The Happiness Project; Better Than Before) reveals the surprising truth about the four hidden personality types that drive everything we do. Learn how to understand yourself better--and also how to influence others more effectively"-- Provided by publisher.
Publisher: New York : Harmony Books, [2017]
Edition: First edition.
ISBN: 9781524760915
Characteristics: ix, 257 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm


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Oct 08, 2019

It is very Brene Brown like....who knew you could get famous on theories with so little substance?

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Jan 15, 2019

The author portraits herself as the one who "got an insight" on something she thinks most researches have missed. She uses the pronoun "I" many times as to trying to show how good she is.

This proofs that anybody can be an author of something by mere observations.

She keeps repeating and repeating the concepts when they all can be explained in one page.

Besides the tendencies are not clear cut and there could be way more tendencies or mix of tendencies than the one she "discovered".

We are all a mix of tendencies or better said behaviors.

I give her credit for trying to help people with her writings.

IndyPL_KatieF Jan 14, 2019

I was surprised at how readily I fit into one of the four "tendencies." While the book hasn't completely caused me to break old habits, it has definitely given me things to think about and a new way to see myself and my interactions with others.

Aug 01, 2018

This book is interesting, but it's a little too sure of itself. "Tendency"? Maybe. Rubin's world is filled with people that have enough resources to do whatever they need to do- or rebel, or slack off. There isn't much reality for anyone that isn't upper middle class and NYC-level urban. The most telling part of the book was her luncheon with investment bankers. It's very easy to be an "upholder" when all of the dreary, tedious tasks of day to day life can be handled by the maid and the secretary.
Conversely, there are plenty of "upholders" that don't have the resources to fulfill all of their obligations. Rubin is a world away from a cleaning woman that rides hours of public transit to a minimum wage job and lives paycheck to paycheck.
I didn't feel the book was a waste of time, and I did learn some new ways of coping with the four tendencies when they clearly manifest in co-workers or family members, but this book is not to be taken too seriously.
(And if one were to take it very seriously, a much harsher eye would be needed, especially politically: The Upholder is the "Good German" of Nazi Germany. The Rebel is the destructive Rioter with no solutions or sense of community. The Obliger has no self or backbone and therefore has no convictions at all. The Questioner is unable to respond with clarity or alacrity in critical, history defining moments.)
In sum: These tendencies can be found in all people, at all times, in varying degrees.

Feb 02, 2018

I have read Gretchen Rubin's earlier books and enjoyed them. However, I was rather skeptical when she postulated here that the world can be divided into four types of people - Obligers, Questioners, Upholders, and Rebels. As I read along I found myself agreeing with her and had a great time analyzing myself and others I knew. The strength of this book lies not only in identifying the tendency you are, but also learning how to deal with people based on your own tendency and theirs. I would highly recommend this book as a keeper.

Jan 10, 2018

I thought the book excellent, one that delivered on its promise.

The book provides a perspective of human interaction from the point of view four clear characteristics, which rang true to me. It suggests common sense ways to apply the knowledge to yourself and others with whom you deal with. The book doesn't make over the top claims. It's a book that many might find helpful.

CRRL_JoyO Oct 23, 2017

A helpful book in not only showing you the strengths and weaknesses of your own tendency, but, even better, helping you to see how to relate to people who have different tendencies. I came away with useful information on understanding and getting along with friends and family and coworkers who are wired differently.

Cynthia_N Oct 16, 2017

Oh. My. Gosh. I was reading this book and I saw myself and then my children. The absolute best part about this book is it suggests small ways to adjust your interactions with others (if you know their tendency) to help life and/or work flow more smoothly. And the neat thing is that all the suggestions you can also apply to yourself as well. Highly recommended!


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