Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was A Girl

Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was A Girl

[a Memoir]

Book - 2019 | First U.S. edition.
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Jeannie Vanasco has had the same nightmare since she was a teenager. It is always about him: one of her closest high school friends, a boy named Mark. A boy who raped her. When her nightmares worsen, Jeannie decides--after fourteen years of silence--to reach out to Mark. He agrees to talk on the record and meet in person.Jeannie details her friendship with Mark before and after the assault, asking the brave and urgent question: Is it possible for a good person to commit a terrible act? Jeannie interviews Mark, exploring how rape has impacted his life as well as her own.Unflinching and courageous, Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl is part memoir, part true crime record, and part testament to the strength of female friendships--a recounting and reckoning that will inspire us to ask harder questions, push towards deeper understanding, and continue a necessary and long overdue conversation.
Publisher: Portland, Oregon : Tin House Books, 2019.
Edition: First U.S. edition.
ISBN: 9781947793453
Characteristics: 357 pages ; 22 cm


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Jul 06, 2020

The core of this book is the author's extended interviews with the former friend who had raped her about 15 years earlier, a fascinating approach, but the book also tells the story of the writing of the memoir itself, and chronicles Vanasco's own process of thinking about how to tell the story, and deciding what to include. A bit repetitive at times, which is understandable given the subject matter, but overall I found this memoir engrossing and often illuminating.


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